I do not wish to sound harsh, but those of you who are not currently succeeding with women may well have a long, hard road ahead of them.

A significant number of men fail to understand that the process of successfully bringing a woman into their life requires CHANGE and HARD WORK.

BIG CHANGES and LOTS of HARD WORK

Most men TOTALLY UNDERESTIMATE how much effort is required to succeed.

Frankly the hard work and cost of achieving what you want may be steep… if you are already a long way from your destination.

And I believe an important step that you are going to have to realize, before you get ANYWHERE is this..

YOUR GOAL IS NOT TO FIND A WOMAN WHO CAN COMPLETELY ACCEPT YOU FOR “WHO YOU ARE”

If you are not an attractive man today, you could waste a lot of time looking far and wide for that elusive, beautiful woman who accepts you and FAIL every time.

I know this may sound harsh but there is a great deal of truth in this.

There are two types of men who are usually traveling this path.

You have the socially inept guy who is on a futile search for the first woman who is desperate enough to accept him.

And then on the other side of the join there is analytical guy, looking for a step by step system of checklists and pickup techniques he can follow and win over the heart of a special girl.

In both cases, neither one will get ANYWHERE.

Sure you could read the latest article on AskMen.com or Maxim magazine, or the latest “pickup” product and learn all the “right techniques” that will improve your love life. And you will probably learn something of value in these products.

However all of this will fall FLAT, if being an attractive man is not part of your INTERNAL IDENTITY. This is a much deeper goal than learning some pickup technique. It is a path of personal growth and one that may take months or even years to achieve.

To illustrate this point. Consider the following scenario:

You are in the line at Starbucks waiting for your order, when the “woman of your dreams” enters the room. You can just tell from the moment you see her that she is going to be the mother of your kids.

You summon the courage to approach her (it is unlikely that you would even get this far if you are nervous and shy, but I’ll suspend disbelief a little here to illustrate my point…)

Put yourself in the mind of this girl. How would you feel if a guy walked up to you and presented himself like this:

• He is painfully shy and nervous
• He seems like he is praying for someone to save him
• His elbows are tucked into his ribs
• His legs are touching each other
• He is hunched over
• He is not making any attempt to meet your eyes, in fact, his eyes are pointing to the ground
• His clothes are frayed, sloppy and fit poorly
• He makes no movement, he stands perfectly still
• He shows no emotion whatsoever

Chances are you would try to avoid this guy at all costs!

You may have learned all the tricks and techniques. And some may help. But if you are not the person you are trying to be, on a deeper level. . You may just be that guy above instead.

You are saying the right things and doing the right stuff. But it still doesn’t work. Because deep down you know, you are NOT the MAN. You are FAKING the MAN.

Knowing the right things to say and the right moves  is just a small part of it. Most of what attracts women is your BEHAVIOR.

You are NOT an attractive man and on a deeper level you know it.

Knowing the right words to SAY to a woman is important, but it’s only 20% of what you need to accomplish. The more critical 80% that needs to be established first is to FIRMLY ESTABLISH YOUR IDENTITY AS A REAL MAN.

Now the big question that most of you guys will now be asking is HOW?

Let’s consider a guy who wants to be in a band.

This guy has a real passion for music, but knows that he has a long way to go before he can perform on a stage and get any kind of respect. He takes voice lessons, learns to play guitars and drums. This guy hangs out with other musicians, he practices at home, for hours..

Every opportunity he gets to practice with other musicians, he takes. He goes and listens to other bands perform and at some point during the process he makes a profound transition of taking an activity that he loves and incorporates it into his very soul.

Because in the beginning he may think to himself..

“I love music..”

But after much dedication and practice and confidence building.. After all the music he has performed has become part of his subconscious.. And his ability to convincingly perform on stage becomes instinctive.. He wakes up one fine morning.. looks in the mirror and says to himself..

“Dude, you ARE a MUSICIAN”

And then he puts and ad in his local paper announcing his intentions to play in a band.

Now it may seem like being a musician and attracting a woman are two entirely different thing. But looking for a girlfriend or attracting a woman is very much deciding if you want to become a lead guitarist or singer for a band.

You either understand that you are a REAL musician who has a legitimate shot at success..

OR

You are just trying to mimic your way through without trying to screw up too badly, when in fact everyone in the audience can pick you out immediately as the nervous newbie that you are. And let me tell you, they will all make the conclusion that:

YOU HAVE NO BUSINESS BEING ON STAGE

Well it’s exactly the same deal with finding and attracting a women.

You either understand and take to heart the importance of establishing yourself as a REAL MAN as part of your INNER IDENTITY. You take steps to improve your appearance, etiquette, attitude, confidence. You learn to be comfortable around women and to LIKE being around women.

OR

You have a litany of excuses in deciding not to adopt them into your life..  Quite often these are ignorance, pride, cowardice, laziness, pessimism and many other common traits and behaviors of men who are NOT GETTING WHAT THEY WANT OUT OF LIFE.

Remember I said earlier that any BIG CHANGE in your life require HARD WORK? And it’s true.

But once again there is something far deeper and rewarding here..
I will call that thing PASSION.

Because if you have PASSION for something, then you really don’t think about the sacrifices you make or the hard work that you do to reach it..

You just do it because..

THIS IS WHO YOU ARE.
To bring attractive women into your life is not something to be taken lightly.
You have a decision to make somewhere along the line. Does the cost outweigh the opportunity? Only you can answer this.

You also have an incredible OPPORTUNITY. You have all the information you need at your disposal that can help you correct your “unproductive” behavior and put you on the path to true growth as a man.

My free 20 lesson course takes you through the steps of developing your social skills, cultivating a good attitude, growing your confidence and creating a lifestyle that attractive women love. This information is available for FREE, but it is up to you to read it, figure out what needs to CHANGE and to WORK ON IT every day until you start seeing RESULTS.

It’s worth repeating that what you learn here is only 20% of the deal.. the remaining 80% is completely up to you.

Trust me on this guys ..

If you are able to bring forth your INNER PASSION as a REAL MAN to bring lady of beauty and quality into your life, then the PASSION she will give back to you will be at a whole different level then what you put in..

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